Friday, July 4, 2014

What does love look like?



For many this picture symbolises boredom.
Long church services, barely making sense of what is being said.
Old Mrs Smith ....(or Mrs Tembo..depending on where you are from) gives you mean looks across the pew.
You swing your legs, count tiles...candy crush.

This Jesus they have spoken about for so long.Who is He?
What did He ever do for me? 
Eye roll.


Why would anyone in this day and age need a saviour? 
 Why not Vashti.. or the myriad of Gods running around these days. 

I haven't met another God that tells me He loves me.
Or a Saviour that died for me.

He wants you to know He loves you. 
Oh and likes you., you quirky thing you.

xoxo


Wednesday, July 2, 2014

Better than all those likes on Social media!

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Random acts of kindness...people find this very surprising these days!

What would you do if someone ahead of you in line at the coffee shop decided to pay for your coffee as well. They didn't announce it, they got their coffee and left, you ordered your oh so complicated hot beverage only to have the barista say.. 'Oh its already been paid for.'
You look around in disbelief for the person, you vaguely remember them, was she wearing a brown coat?
You gush with thankfulness, you smile. Well...that was nice.

That's how it is with Christ my friend. He paid for it all.

Do you know YOU have the power to totally turn around a persons day by random acts of kindness?
They don't have to know.
Pay for someones coffee or meal in a cafe.
Leave an anonymous bouquet of flowers by a neighbours door.
Remember ecards? You can still send those.
That pair of shoes your best friend has been eyeing that you don't wear that much anyway? Give them to her.
It feels better than you expect.
Better than all those likes on Social media.

xoxo



Tuesday, July 1, 2014

Rude, Bad boys and Black Coffee

A few choons (tunes) to make you smile, bop or be nostalgic...

Music is powerful.

Magic - Rude

A nice reggae beat, laid down to the smooth vocals of a Julian Casablancas look alike.Yes we like!


Magic // Rude from Creativeseen // David Rousseau on Vimeo.

Big Bang - Bad Boy

G Dragon..what else is there to say?


[MV] Big Bang - Bad Boy (subbed) from davidabadilla on Vimeo.

Brooke Fraser - Shadow Feet
Where will you be found when it all feels like its falling apart?


Shadow Feet - Brooke Fraser from GospelVids on Vimeo.

Travis - flowers in the window
Amazing throwback!


flowers in the window from shuttlecocking on Vimeo.


All Saints - Pure shores

Makes me want to break out a tank top, boot leg jeans and trainers! Stil love them!


All Saints - Black Coffee von Dante35

Monday, June 30, 2014

A little less advice and more listening?


Just finished reading an interesting article called after failure what next?
It resonated deeply with the ebook that I wrote called Congratulations! You failed
One of the important points in the article was talking to everyone about your failure.
What a hard thing to do.
We live in a society where you ALWAYS put your best face forward.When you first meet someone the first question is "So what do you do?" which can sometimes be translated into..this conversation going well may largely depend on whether I think what you do i impressive enough.

Brene Browns TED talk about vulnerability hit home for so many people because we are dying to be vulnerable. 
We are dying to be vulnerable with each other but we cant because we are afraid.

Talking about your failures is so scary, and it requires that you be vulnerable enough to say that you did.

I feel vulnerable about talking about my failures because it means that I am not good enough.
I want to matter, I want to contribute, and failing at something just means that ..I do not add up.
Forget all the talk about failing forward, its just a phase etc....it still sucks to fail.
It sucks to talk to people about it that offer a band aid to the gaping wound that is your life.

There does lie a freedom in talking about your failures though.To finally let it out.
If you do it slowly that is okay, just don't keep it quiet forever, because then you will never get over the failure itself.
In the ebook I caution who you talk about your failure with, and in the article Brain Feld does the same. 
In my experience talking about it first with people that matter to you worked better than talking to EVERYONE about it. 
Like it or not people can really be nasty about failure, surprisingly, because everyone has failed at something one time or another. So how about a little more empathy?
A little less advice and more listening?
How about a little more vulnerability, for yourself and for others?

xoxo

Saturday, June 21, 2014

What would feel like a miracle right now?



Tell me. What would feel like a miracle to you right now?

What are you wanting so so bad? 

It could be as simple as .. getting through the book you are reading, or making up with an estranged friend, or believing yourself a little more......or even how to I cut up a watermelon as yummy as in the picture above?

Tell me.

Write me in the comments or email me and let me know!

Enjoy this chirpy song on this first day of summer!

xoxo
p.s you are amazing, did you forget?



Akdong Musician (AKMU) - 200% MV 1080p Sub Español from REGGAN on Vimeo.

Friday, May 30, 2014

Wanderlust - Seoul,Korea



Have I told you I have the Korea bug so so bad? I want to go so bad! My friend Abi was just there recently and....sigh.... the green eyed monster was alive and well, watching her instagram.

I've also caught the Kpop bug pretty badly.

Just have a listen and thank me later.

How amazing are these videos? I havent seen some good quality video, heard great vocals or seen great choreography like this in a long long time.

#LongLiveBoyBands. #PrettyBoysRule

 First song is called 'Cant stop' by CNBLUE , ugh.. I love them! This song is so upbeat, it doesnt start out that way, but just listen.Beautiful!

 
Cnblue Can't stop Official M/V from SXIVA on Vimeo.



next one is by EXO called Overdose. This may be my 2014 summer song.


 
EXO-K - 중독 (Overdose) _ Music Video from Eric YoonWon Cheung on Vimeo.


This song is amazing. I break into a dance every time I play it...which is every time! I'm surprised at how well they can sing..and dance. Move over JT.....Someone call the doctor #Overdose!


Now for that lovey dovey RnB feeling ...but from Kute Korean boys (see what I did there? ) is a lovely song called 'Just one day' by BTS aka Bangtan Boys.



방탄소년단 (BTS) - Just one day (하루만) MV [English subs + Romanization + Hangul] from Yoon Sunghae on Vimeo.

Seoul Seoul Seoul... when will we meet? 
(I have a few accomplices that are willing to go...soon Seoul...soon we will be united!)


xoxo



Thursday, May 29, 2014

Reliance


'I don't have any self confidence anymore!'
My friends fist almost pounded the coffee table the other day.
He was frustrated! 

He's Italian, polishing his English...in Germany :)

I knew exactly where he was, and I knew offering any form of  'Its alright' advice at this time was not going to cut it! I knew what it was like to be brushed off with hurried advice, and speaking to someone who has never been where I am at that moment.

Remember the story of Moses? (In the bible, that big book your mama hides money in, or the one where you record the deaths and weddings, yeah..that one)

When God called Moses to go and speak to Pharaoh about letting the children of Israel go, Moses replied
 ' Lord (humble face), you know I don't speak to well, I've got this stutter, and to be honest, I've been out here in the desert and I don't know what the latest trends are.I don't have an iphone. I haven't written out  business plan for this, the finances are not adding up.Also I haven't bought the domain for my website because I don't know how to go about the hosting stuff (exaggerated humble bow of the head)'  *blink blink*

God got angry with him. Why? After all Moses was being honest (probably like you are).
Sure, you are being realistic.  Of course you really now how inadequate you are or how hopeless the situation is. But maybe you are making God angry too.
(Is this about sin again? is my being hopeless and broke making God mad, again? Doesn't he have bigger things to be mad about? Isn't he always mad anyway? )
Why was he angry? 
Like us, every single day, Moses was looking at his own ability.
Wasn't it God that made his mouth?
Isn't it God that has given you those hands? That mind? 

If we look at our own ability we come up short for the amazing things we  can do with Gods help.

How do you get Gods help? Simple. Ask


e.g
 ' Lord, please help me with this'

 'God, I haven't spoken to you in a while and I feel bad for asking, but could you help me?'

'Help me Lord!'

'God, I am not even sure you exist, but I need help, I cant do this on my own'

Yes , you are human, and you come up short in many ways.
Rely on God and HIS infinite power for all things.


xoxo

ps Have you read my ebook about failure yet? You can get it here ! :) Thank you!

p.s.s Have we connected on Twitter or Facebook yet? Lets!

Wednesday, May 14, 2014

The eyeroll.

I've always felt a little afraid of writing about my faith on this blog.
Why?
I've cared too much about the eye rolling.

eye roll photo tumblr_inline_mk52jl2QaG1rg4uy0_zpsf5bcc01d.gif

Oh she found religion!
No. I've been a follower of Jesus for  a very long time. (What does that even mean!?!)
Why?
He is love.
(What does that even mean!?!)
The same way you love your family, would do anything for them, He loves you even more than that.
Its always so hard to believe, especially when things go wrong.
Especially when you've been hit with a bible on your head for so long all that Christianity seems is like a headache.
Or if the person you trusted so much and betrayed you was a christian.
(I am a christian, and I've done some pretty crappy stuff.)
The examples are endless of what is wrong with religion.
I am not talking about religion though.
I'm talking about a relationship.
Hope we can explore a little more of this from time to time.
I hope you're game.



p.s have you purchased my super lovely ebook yet? 

Monday, May 5, 2014

Why do you have to be busy all the time?


What is it about silence that lets all the goblins and gremlins come out to play in your mind?

You sit quietly for a while and the questions start coming up.

Shouldn't I be doing something? Where is my life going? What does this mean?

You know what else?

We force ourselves to have an answer to these questions, and if we don't we run.

What does running look like?

Being busy. Endlessly looping youtube videos (Because there are youtube videos about everything!)

Fiddling with your phone, calling people you haven't spoken to in years....you keep running.

How about you simply answer the gremlins and goblins and say 

'I don't know right now'

You know what usually happens..nothing.

Its okay to not know right now.


xoxo


Friday, May 2, 2014

#BringBackOurGirls


What would you do if your daughter was abducted whilst she is at school, and is sold off for $12?
This is what is happening right now in Nigeria.
The number of girls has in fact risen to 276.

For some people this is just another story about problems in Africa, why cant they get it together, its time for the African Union to act etc etc. I hear you.

This is just not about them though. Women are abducted everyday, off the streets in many different countries.


Many believe that sex trafficking is something that occurs “somewhere else.” However, many of the biggest trafficking consumers are developed nations, and men from all sectors of society support the trafficking industry. There is no one profile that encapsulates the “typical” client. Rather, men who purchase trafficked women are both rich and poor, Eastern and Western. Many are married and have children, and in some cases, as was reported in one New York Times article, men have sex with trafficked girls in lieu of abusing their own young children. (source)

These 276 girls were abducted, they are from poor families

and all they were doing was trying to get an education.

Why should we keep talking about it? we have to keep the 

story alive, this puts pressure on authorities, influences 

culture and makes us more aware of how to protect 

ourselves and the people we love!

We need to #BringBackOurgirls. Tweet about it, instagram it, facebook it!

This is a problem bigger than you believe!

image courtesy of Sherida





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How lived is your life?


Hearing about the death of someone by their own hand is always really sad.
Lots of questions about how, why didn't they get help ( I wrote a post on suicide a while back and also about not being afraid to get help ) , how bad was it really etc

It had me thinking, how many of us say these things, or think them but live life as if it is not a gift?
If you are alive, and are not living it to the fullest how much better are you then someone that takes their  own life?
(Now don't misunderstand.I am not advocating suicide.)

Is your life just an unused gift?

Are you not trying all you can try to do, enjoying yourself, being adventurous?

What is it that you have always wanted to do that you haven't even looked into?

 How lived is your life?

xoxo




Thursday, April 17, 2014

Discretion ...



You don't have to tell everyone everything.
Some things are nicer or are meant to only share with special people.

You don't have to tell everyone everything ...
Sometimes there are just no explanations needed.

Enjoy this Lauryn Hill mix. Had me swaying :)

xoxo

Monday, March 31, 2014

That spring feeling!

It starts to get warmer...my ears tingle...because the pop playing in my headphones just gets sweeter and maybe a little cheesier! 
(I love kpop. Period. Don't judge me.)
A few so I'm listening to lately. A lot of feel good songs, and some Zambian soul for some soul soothing.
Enjoy!

Sunday, March 30, 2014

Choosing yourself.


One of the hardest things you can do is choose yourself.
Say no to another person and choose yourself, your sanity, your peace, your heart.
Even when what was is being asked of you sounds so good, and could be immensely beneficial.
Will you sell your personal sense of peace for a cup of coffee you don't feel like having with that friend?
Will you keep working on something or for people that leave a bad taste in your mouth?
Will you keep making choices that are not for your ultimate good?

Choose yourself.

Choose.You.

Monday, March 3, 2014

Reminder



I don't have anything particularly 'innovative' to say. I just want to remind people that you do not have to be perfect to be loved.
By your family, by your spouse , by God and most importantly by yourself.

Don't wait till you check something off a list to be kind to yourself.

Be kind to yourself. Always.


xoxo